Good Bye My Friend

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Lost Friend. We were once close, we shared life stories and love stories and all sort of stories that you can ever think of. We used to share a life together, one that I once thought would never be broken. But one think in life you have to learn is that friendship is also a relationship, and you can break up, fall out, and fall apart, for whatever reason.

It is not in my philosophy to hate friends that I used to love, or to be the enemy of my old friend, but when I lose one, I just start feeling indifferent, unaffected to whatever life may take them. I do not want to say that I don’t care about them, but eventually like everything else, you learn not to care about that person you used to care about your whole life. Suddenly they will no longer exist. You don’t hate them, you just don’t care, they just don’t matter anymore.

And I got to thinking, I broke up with boyfriends in the past but eventually I was able to rekindle the friendship I had with them, we are still able to maintain a healthy distant friendship. We can talk one day and talk like it was just yesterday when we last saw each other, but what happens when a friendship ends? I guess the path to take is to pretend like you never even knew each other, and sooner or later that friend who is no longer your friend will cease to exist.

You will erase them in your life, like they never have been part of it at all. You will lead separate lives and lose touch and never talk again.

If and when you lose a friend, it is sad, definitely for the first two days it will make you feel sad because of all those memories you shared with them, and the wasted years you spent loving them. But you will move on, you will realize there are a lot of other friends, deserving friends that you can now concentrate and focus on. One that will not waste your efforts and your love.

Friendship like all relationships is a two way street, it requires work, patience, understanding and trust. It might even be the hardest relationships to break, the toughest to rekindle and impossible to get back once lost. So if you have a friend that bid you goodbye, say goodbye with an open heart, let them leave and let other people in. Because a friend that gives up on you is not a friend worth having. This new path that life will take you will allow you to meet new and everlasting friends that will treasure what you (photo from: plectrude)                                         have to offer, no buts, no ifs, no whens.

So bid your lost friend goodbye, be bitter for a while and be sad, but tomorrow feel better because it is another opportunity to make life long friends.